Social Groups

Ambush Rochester

Ambush Rochester creates a safe place for queer women to congregate once a month at a local venue that is traditionally straight. Queer identified women and allies are welcome! Keep an eye out in the Empty Closet for monthly gathering information or check out Ambush Rochester on Facebook for updates.

Bears and Friends Network

This is a network, a way to meet new people to go out with and do

things with. It is not a group per say so there are NO DUES. NO REQUIREMENTS. You can pick and choose a weekly event to come to, a

monthly event or none at all. You can even suggest, host or even plan an event (Dinner, Movies, Party etc.). It is freely run with events

to fit all budgets. This is just a way to meet people and get

out and have fun. PLAIN AND SIMPLE!

“Coffee and Chat” night takes place at 7:15pm on Monday nights at Spot Coffee (200 East Ave.)

“Bear Chat & Coffee with Rick, Gary and Friends” happens on Tuesdays at 6:30pm at Equal Grounds (750 South Ave.)
Butch-Femme Connection

The Butch-Femme Connection meets twice a month on Saturday night, at local area restaurants for good food and fun. This is a great way for women to meet new friends! We are a butch-femme safe space, but you may join us if you are butch, femme or anything in between! All we ask is that you keep an open mind. Call or e-mail for meeting dates and times or check out our monthly listing in The Empty Closet newspaper.

Contact Kerry or Max. Also, check out our Facebook page under The Rochester Butch Femme Connection.

Come Out and Play (COAP)

Come Out And Play is a GLBT social group based in the greater Rochester, New York area. Our members range in age from twenties to sixties. The group is geared towards everyone, and all are welcome. Our goals are to get out and be active. We plan activities that allow us to socialize and have fun. New members are always welcome, and there are no membership dues. There are weekly game nights at Equal Grounds from 8pm-12am on Wednesdays, all year long, and there is weekly volleyball on Tuesdays, during the warm months, from 5pm-dark at 702 N. Landing Rd. Rochester, NY 14625 behind Indian Landing school. There are also other parties and events that happen such as movie nights throughout the year and activities to join. E-mail for more information.

ComeOUT Dancin’

Do you like to dance? Do you wish you could dance? Do you want to meet others who enjoy dancing? Do you want to learn dances like Swing, Salsa, Waltz, Foxtrot? Well now you can! ComeoutDancin’ is the greater Rochester’s LGBT social dance community.

We meet on the 1st and 3rd Sundays of the month from 3pm-5pm at the Friends Meeting House, 84 Scio Street. A 1/2 hour Mini-lesson precedes the 1-1/2 hour Open dance session. $5 per person. ALL ARE WELCOME. Program runs September thru May.

84 Scio Street
Empire Bears
100 College Ave, Suite 100
GLBTQI Motorcycle Group

A place for Rochester, NY’s Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender, Queer, & Intersex (GLBTQI) motorcyclists and our friends and supporters to chat, share tips & stories, and plan meet-ups. All ages, races, orientations, & gender ID’s welcome! All style bikes welcome! Let’s ride with pride!

In order for your membership to be approved, you must have a legitimate Yahoo profile, and you must write a short bit about yourself in the application.

Great to have you here!!

Guys’ Night Out

Guys’ Night Out
Guys’ Night Out is a local trans* group that meets at 1pm on the second Saturday of the month at Equal=Grounds, 750 South Ave. Transmen and those identifying with trans-masculine experience (including questioning individuals) are welcome.  Please know this is a welcoming space with no set expectations on what it means to identify as a “transman” each of us has such a diverse background and life experiences!! There is no commitment to attend each month.  There will sometimes be a few people or a tableful of amazing people who attend.  Conversations range from topics regarding family life, personal experiences with regard to medically/socially transitioning and how life is going in general. 

In addition to the set meeting at EG the group takes part in things like going to the movies, laser tag, pool and bowling.  This happens almost monthly with the ideas of where to go coming from the group.  The activities out are a mix of events just for the guys and some that are open for friends/family/partners to come and join in!!

***PS is you have some social anxiety, know you would be sitting at a table with people who can relate…you can come and share your life story or sit quietly taking in those around you 🙂

If you would like to know more contact Adrian at

585-244-8640 ext. 14
Ithaca Men’s Network

The Men’s Fest is a men’s weekend retreat sponsored by the Ithaca Men’s Network to explore the changing nature of what it means to be a man. It has been celebrated annually since 1984 in central New York State, USA.

During the weekend, from dinner on Friday at 6:00 pm until Sunday at 2:00 pm, we will have a chance to talk, play, cook, eat, process, learn, grow, challenge, sing and dance with other men. This all takes place at Camp Arnot, south of Ithaca, in the midst of hundreds of acres of state forest land. Camp Arnot has 5 heated cabins (accommodating 40 men), 8 unheated cabins, and a large lodge. There are places to camp out in the surrounding forest.

Our intentions for the fest are to create a safe, confidential, and supportive space for honest and clear communication, breaking down barriers and gender roles, challenging homophobia, celebrating mendom and having fun.
PO Box 6711
Jones Pond Campground and RV Park

Come pitch your tent at the pond.

Just over 1 hour from Rochester in Western New York State. Jones Pond is a members only, adult male (21+), gay camping facility with clothing optional areas on 117 acres. Large RV and tent sites, cabins and guest house. DJ/dancing every weekend, hiking, swimming and social events our the wazoo. Call or visit our website for directions and the events schedule. See ya there!
9835 Old State Road